Day 1 - Love is Patient
Patience and kindness are the main ingredients for love. There are other ingredients, but those two are the foundations. In the book, he refers to it as "pillars', but you get the idea. The lesson is really about observing your reactions to things. Things your spouse does. It asks some major questions, and then asks you to recognize, respond, and report your findings.
· Can your spouse count on having a patient wife or husband to deal with?
o Up until this morning, I thought she could. But I realized after careful consideration, that I was wrong. There were a few times yesterday that this didn't describe me actually. I'm going to repeat today.
· Can she know that locking her keys in the car will be met by your understanding rather than a demeaning lecture that makes her feel like a child?
o Sure. That part is easy. There are certain things that simply don't cause issues. However, there are those that are hard to overlook. Nothing specific though… it's just sort of random.
· Can she know that cheering during the last seconds of a football game won't invite a loud-mouthed laundry list of ways he should be spending his time?
o Again, some things are easy. My lovely bride doesn't mind this at all. In fact, she looks forward to it.
The first part of this dare is fairly simple. Although love is communicated in a number of ways, our words often reflect the condition of our heart. For the next day, resolve to demonstrate patience and to say nothing negative to your spouse at all. If the temptation arises, choose not to say anything. It's better to hold your tongue than to say something you'll regret.
· Did anything happen today to cause anger toward your mate?
Yes. Although I don't remember exactly what it was. And it really wasn't as much towards her as it was someone 'related' to her. That's going to be a big thing. How to NOT be so quick to anger and judgmental with others in this family.
· Were you tempted to think disapproving thoughts and to let them come out in words?
Actually… not vocally. In other words, not so someone could hear them. They were all under my breath, or in a different room. In other words… I knew it. And that matters. The trick will be to notice them, acknowledge them, and then quell the thoughts before they start.
Everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger. James 1:19
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Monday, October 11, 2010