Love Dare - Day 31 - Love and Marriage

Today's Verse:

A man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. – Genesis 2:24
Today's Message:

We are long past 'most' of this. I say 'most' because there really are things that you just never get over. As the saying goes, you can forgive, but it's hard to forget. That doesn't mean that it sticks to your brain every moment of every day, but it never goes away.

When it comes to leaving, I think we did this along time ago…when we moved back to Georgia. We were never near her family and parents, so we never really had anything to leave. As far as MY family goes, there were so many rips torn in the family blanket after our father passed, there was no way it could keep us all warm and fuzzy.

Maybe that's the take away from the 'leaving' part of this message. Maybe it's me that never really 'left' my family. If I would have done that, we probably wouldn't be living in Georgia today.

When it comes to the the 'cleaving' part, I think we do a pretty good job of that as well. We have both grown closer as we've gotten older. We know that the only people we can REALLY count on, is each other.
Today's Questions:

  • Are you and your spouse still living with unresolved issues because of a failure to cut the apron strings?
  • Do either of your parents continue to create problems within your home – perhaps without their even knowing it?
  • What needs to happen to put a stop to this before it creates too wide of a division in your marriage?
Today's Dare:

Is there a "leaving" issue you haven't been brave enough to conquer yet? Confess it to your spouse today, and resolve to make it right. The oneness of your marriage is dependent upon it. Follow this with a commitment to your spouse and to God to make your marriage the top priority over every other human relationship.

  • Has this been a hard thing for you to deal with?
    • Cutting the strings wasn't the issues. The real issue was breaking the ties. In other words, what I should have spending time doing was STAYING connected with her family. She misses them, and they miss her. It's not the kind of thing that makes her mad all the time, but it does make her sad. I should have ran my business more around the needs of my family and spouse, rather than the client's needs taking top billing.
  • How has it affected your relationship?
    • The dependency on each other helped… but the disconnect with her family wasn't good. I need to fix this.
  • If the worse offender in this area is your spouse (with your in-laws), how can you lovingly move toward a better situation?
    • We are going to visit a whole lot more. I'm going to help create that connection to her family again.
May they all be one, as You, Father, are in Me and I am in You. (John 17:21 HCSB) - -



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