Day 24 - Love vs. Lust

Today's Verse:

The world is passing away, and also its lusts; but the one who does the will of God lives forever. – 1 John 2:17
Today's Message:

I don't think it's a coincidence that we were just talking about this at Half-Time last night. Not directly, but indirectly. We were reading scripture from the daily reading of 'Stand Firm" and the discussion led to men's addictions to porn, sex, and other things of a sexual nature.

I kept trying to drive home to everyone that it wasn't JUST about sex. It's not JUST about porn. It can be about anything.

For example, I am self employed and in my case I spend WAY too much time working on things that my customers will NEVER pay me for. And I'm not just talking about a 'little' bit of time. I'm talking about huge volumes of time.

I keep a record of my hours…I just don't always bill for them. I ran some reports that showed I was working a minimum of 70 hours, and yet my maximum billing for any of those weeks was 23 hours. That means I was either 'addicted' to the work, or addicted to the concept that there would be a monetary reward.

That being said; what I have to determine is exactly what is causing this type of behavior and fix it.
Today's Questions:

  • What are the things that you REALLY lust after?
Today's Dare:

End it now. Identify every object of lust in your life and remove it. Single out every lie you've swallowed in pursuing forbidden pleasure and reject it. Lust cannot be allowed to live in a back bedroom. It must be killed and destroyed – today – and replaced with the sure promises of God and a heart filled with His perfect love.

  • What did you identify as an area of lust?
    • Working all the time as a form of escape, or over achieving, or maybe even something else. Some might think that because I work on the Internet it's about porn, but it's not. I think it's trying to be more than I am. It doesn't matter. What I do know is that it has consumed a large part of my life and I need to stop it.
    • Food. Yep.. That's right… I over eat. I have to learn how to control it.
  • What has this pursuit cost you over time?
    • I don't know my kids as well as I wish I did. I allowed my time at work to replace time with them. It hurts me to know I allowed this to happen. What hurts the most is that it was for people who didn't appreciate what I was doing for them. All of this effected my relationship with my spouse, although I do think I have worked on this and am well on the way of fixing that.
    • Food - just one look at my physique tells the story. Below all this abuse is high cholesterol and a heart attack waiting to happen. The self perception is damaged as well. I can fix this.
  • How has it led you away from the person you want to be?
    • By working too much I didn't pay enough attention to what she wanted. The BAD thing is …the rewards for work never happened. I know the reason for that is because it wasn't FOCUSED work… but now it is… and things are working better.
  • Write about your new commitment to seek Him 0 and to seek your spouse - rather than seeking after foolish desires.
    • Now I am doing my studies, going to church…and being involved with people who understand the limitations that we ALL have. I'm committed to not allowing others to make THEIR unreasonable expectations my unattainable goals.
Act as free men, and do not use your freedom as a covering for evil. (1 Peter 2:16) - -



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