Day 28 - Love Makes Sacrifices

Today's Verse:

He laid down His life for us. We should also lay down our lives for our brothers. – 1 John 3:16 HCSB
Today's Message: We spend a lot of time together. But we also spend a lot of time apart. Sometimes the time apart is spent in doing things that are valuable to the relationship. Sometimes it has no value on the relationship. Those are the times that are what some people refer to as 'me' time.

This lesson isn't saying that you should give up 'me' time… but perhaps you should take a look at what that 'me' time is really costing in terms of your relationship.

If it's something that is taking you further away from where you WANT your marriage to be…then give it up. (This is true for ANY relationship).

Spend time doing things that will strengthen the relationship rather than things that will take away from the relationship. Find out what your spouse needs…and do everything you can to fill that need. That… is true in everything.

Find a need - fill it.

My wife needs to know right now that our business will support us. If it won't…then I need to drop it. I've been self employed for almost 25 years, and have continued to make the same mistake. I've allowed OTHER people's needs to get in the way of my relationship with her, my family, and my friends. It has to stop.
Today's Questions:

  • What can you do today to help your spouse?
  • Can you keep the words "How can I help?" at the top of your mindset, on a daily basis…when it comes to your spouse?
Today's Dare:
  • What is one of the greatest needs in your spouse's life right now?
  • Is there a need you could lift from their shoulders today by a daring act of sacrifice on your part?
  • Whether the need is big or small, purpose to do what you can to meet the need.

  • How much of your mate's stress is caused by your lack of concern or initiative?
    • I have to admit that it was a lot more than I imagined, and yet I did KNOW what those concerns/stress were BEFORE we talked about it. They are mostly centered on the way that I have managed the financial aspects of my business. I think I have always made them second behind my customers, in other words my customers came first.
    • That in itself is just so wrong, but it's also indicative of the issues surround us (the world) today. While there are some that do genuinely care about others, there are far too many that are using their religious views to take advantage of situations. I have allowed that to happen. But I'm on top of it now.
  • When you expressed a desire to help, how did they receive it?
    • Great. We talked for nearly an hour about various situations that we both needed to get off our chest. Nothing was really hurtful, angry, or misdirected. Most of it had to do with what I said above.
  • Are there other needs you could meet?
    • Yes. And I am going to start today by writing emails to people that owe us money. I'm not going to be angry, but rather 'you owe this… how do we proceed from here?"
Bear one another's burdens, and thereby fulfill the law of Christ. (Galatians 6:2) - -



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