Day 27 - Love Encourages

Today's Verse:

Guard my soul and deliver me; do not let me be ashamed, for I take refuge in You. – Psalm 25:20
Today's Message:

If you're told enough times that you aren't good enough, smart enough, or talented enough to do something… pretty soon you begin to believe it. Sometimes it makes the difference between success and failure. It's true in business, and it's true in your personal relationships.

I think I do a good job of encouraging my spouse in her daily job at work, but I'm not sure I do a good enough job in the things that she would say really matters to her. For example, she's a great artist…and yet there isn't anyplace in the house where she could sit down and do that.

Another example is that when she decided to learn how to use … she got really good at it. But does she get to practice that? No. Why? Because I've taken over her laptop to perform the tasks required of me for my business. We can't afford another one right now…but the truth is that's not her fault. She's not the one that isn't collecting money that is owed to us. That falls squarely on me. Although I am working on that part of the business, I'm probably not working on it hard enough.

I need to start taking a better look at the things that she likes doing, and support her more in those things.
Today's Questions:

  • Does your spouse feel like you are constantly berating them, or would they say you encourage them in the things that are important to them?
Today's Dare:

Eliminate the poison of unrealistic expectations in your home. Think of one area where your spouse has told you you're expecting too much, and tell them you're sorry for being so hard on them about it. Promise them you'll seek to understand, and assure them of your unconditional love.

  • When you place high expectations on your spouse that they don't feel internally motivated to attain, what does that tell you about yourself?
    • That you need to reconsider what you're asking them to do. Communication is important. It's possible that you don't provide them enough encouragement for them to WANT to do what you're asking. Most of the time if I ask for something that I really need, my spouse does everything they can to provide me that. That wasn't always true though. It's really been different since I began working on positive affirmation a few years ago.
  • What are some better ways to deal with these disconnects?
    • Try to keep all the negative that doesn't have any real effect on the outcome, to yourself. It's important to give honest feedback, but just because I don't like a particular 'thing'… it doesn't mean I should hurt my relationship BECAUSE of it. It's simply not worth it.
Let us consider how to stimulate one another to love and good deeds. (Hebrews 10:24) - -



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