Day 4 - Love Is Thoughtful

Today's Verse:
How precious also are Your thoughts to me. . . . How vast is the sum of them! If I should count them, they would outnumber the sand. —Psalm 139:17–18
Today's Message: Is all about being mindful of what your spouse needs. It reminds you that there was a reason you got married. You found them interesting, they were interested in you and everything was exciting.
As the years go on, and the rings begin to wear…everything gets more comfortable. Everybody becomes more complacent and forget about the things that mattered in the first place. You FORGET to be MINDFUL of your spouse. You take them for granted, although you said you never would.
Today is an opportunity to reach out and reconnect. It's a chance to say something very simple. It's a chance to say 'I'm listening to you, and what you say is important to me." There's no need to make this harder than it is. It's a simple thing. Pick up the phone, make the call.
Today's Questions:
  • When was the last time you spent a few minutes thinking about how you could better understand and demonstrate love to your spouse?
    • Easy.. That was yesterday, and the day before. I think about it all the time.
  • What immediate need can you meet?
    • Support for her job. She spends a lot of time there, and needs our support for what she is bringing to the family.
  • What's the next event (anniversary, birthday, holiday) you could be preparing for?
    • Anniversary. It's not far off.. I need to figure out a way to get a car for her.
  • Great marriages come from great thinking.
Today's Dare:
Contact your spouse sometime during the business of the day. Have no agenda other than asking how he or she is doing and if there is anything you could do for them.
I visited my wife at work today unexpectedly. I brought three caramels. I showed them to her and she took all three!!! I didn't say "Hey, I wanted one of those!" … I just let her have them. She said later that they were really great and added an extra 'umphh' to her lunch. But… that's not really the best thing about what happened.
What I asked her…three times… was "Is there anything I can do for you today? Is there anything that I need to do that you don't have time to do?" She told me she needed to get the dog's dew claws clipped. She knew I wouldn't be able to do it…but she asked anyway. I did try to get it done…and unknown to her, it is now scheduled to be done sometime today. She will be surprised. But what was interesting was that when we saw each other later on…she remembered that I had asked that exact question. "What can I help you with?"… and she really appreciated it. It was great.
  • What did you learn about yourself of your spouse by doing this today?
    • She does listen to me and appreciates what I do for her.
    • I can and SHOULD be more attentive to what she needs.
  • How could this become a more natural, routine, and genuinely helpful part of your lifestyle?
    • Wash, Rinse…repeat. Wash, Rinse… repeat. I just need to do this more often.
 I thank my God in all my remembrance of you. (Philippians 1:3)


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