Day 3 - Love is not selfish


Today's Verse:
 Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor. —Romans 12:10
Today's Message:
Much of today's message is about not doing things and expecting things in return. One of the sentences that really struck me was 'Whether you like it or not, you have a reputation in the eyes of those around you, especially in the eyes of your spouse. But is it a loving reputation?" That's a huge question…and I am really giving it a lot of attention. I do know that my spouse said yesterday that from a personal perspective, there was never any doubt in her mind that I loved her, and was really caring when it came to thinking about her well being. That was a big bonus for me. I've been working on that…even before the challenge.
Yesterday was about being 'kinder', today is about being unselfish. I can see why it was done in this order. It's great to be 'kinder', but to be kinder, put others needs before yours AND expect nothing in return, that's much different.
Today's dare, to buy something for your spouse… is a reminder of 'where your treasure is, your heart is also.' So, if you are going to 'buy something' using MONEY… does that mean your heart is all about money? I'm going to try and think of other ways and things that I can 'buy' my spouse today. I already knew this challenge was coming anyway, because I had looked forward to a few chapters in the book. So, yesterday…in addition to being 'kind', I also purchased some chocolate cashews for her, knowing that she LOVES them. So, the money is already gone, and as a matter of fact…she already has the cashews. (I gave them to her around 6AM) I have nothing to lose, and everything to gain by coming up with a different 'purchase' for her.
Today's Questions:
• Do I truly want what's best for my husband or wife?
• Do I want them to feel loved by me?
• Do they believe I have their best interests in mind?
• Do they see me as looking out for myself first?
Today's Dare:
Whatever you put your time, energy, and money into will become more important to you. It's hard to care for something you are not investing in. Along with restraining from negative comments, buy your spouse something that says, "I was thinking of you today."
Results:
  • What did you choose to give your spouse?
    • I've already stated that I gave her the chocolate covered cashews and that I was going to give her something else. That something else was my time and attention. I stopped work when I was supposed to, and spent some time with her watching the programs that SHE wanted to watch, and talking about things that SHE wanted to talk about. Those are things that money simply can't buy.
  • What happened when you gave it?
    • The chocolates… she shared with everyone. The time and attention she shared with me. Both were well worth the effort.
Where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there is disorder (James 3:16)

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